Recommended Reading
General Books for Adults
The Love They Lost, Living With the Legacy of Our Parents' Divorce, Stephanie Staal (Random House, 2000)
Between Love & Hate, A Guide to Civilized Divorce Lois Gold, M.S.W. (Plenum Press 1992)
Crazy Time Surviving Divorce Abigail Trafford (Bantam Books 1982) - Still the best book to help one going through divorce understand and manage the emotional turmoil.
The Good Divorce, Keeping Your Family Together When Your Marriage Comes Apart Constance Ahrons, Ph.D. (Harper-Collins 1994) - Inspiring and practical guide to reduce the conflict of the divorce process.
Healing Hearts - Inspirational Elizabeth Dalton Hickey (Gold Leaf Press 1994)
Surviving the Breakup, How Children and Parents Cope with Divorce Judith Wallerstein (Basic Books Publishers 1980)
The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce, a 25 Year Landmark Study Judith Wallerstein, Julia Lewis and Sandra Blakeslee (Hyperion Publisher 2000)
Partnership Parenting Kyle Pruett, MD & Marsha Kline Pruett, PhD
The Courage to Heal: A Guide for Women Survivors of Sexual Child Abuse Ellen Bass & Laura Davis
Never Take No for an Answer: One Woman, One Life and the Money Mystique - Deals with the special issues that women face when dealing with money. Karen Sheridan
Navigating the Dark Side of Wealth: A life guide to Inheritors - Best guide to the special issues of those managing the challenges presented by inherited wealth. Thayer Cheatham Willis
Your Divorce Advisor - Perhaps the best single volume guide to the legal and emotional aspects of divorce. Diana Mercer, J.D. and Marsha Kline Pruett, Ph.D., M.S.L. (Simon & Schuster 2001)
For Better or for Worse: Divorce Reconsidered Hetherington, E.M., & Kelly, J. (W.W. Norton 2002)
The Divorce Handbook - A worthy classic Hetherington, E.M., & Kelly, J. (W.W. Norton 2002)
Parenting Children of Divorce and Custody Issues
Before the Best Interests of the Child Joseph Goldstein, Anna Frend, Albert J. Solnit
Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce the Sandcastles Way M. Gary Neuman (Random House, 1999) As seen on the Oprah Winfrey Show
The Child Custody Book, How to Protect Your Children and Win Your Case (Impact Publishers, 2000) Judge James W. Stewart
Joint Custody and Shared Parenting, (The Guilford Press, 1991) Jay Folberg
Families Apart, Ten Keys to Successful Co-Parenting Melinda Blau (The Berkley Publishing Company 1993)
Helping Your Child Succeed After Divorce Florence Bienenfeld (Hunter House 1987)
Joint Custody with a Jerk - Excellent practical advice. Julie Ross and Judy Corcoran (St. Martin's Press 1996)
Long Distance Parenting: A Guide for Divorced Parents Miriam Galper Cohen (NAL 1989)
Mom's House, Dad's House for Kids: Feeling at Home in One Home or Two - Fantastic resource! Isolina Ricci (Simon & Schuster, 2006)
101 Ways To Be A Long Distance Super Dad George Newman (Blossom Valley Press 1981)
Putting Kids First, Walking Away from a Marriage Without Walking Over the Kids Michael L. Oddenino (Family Connections Publishing 1995)
The Good Divorce, Keeping your family together when your marriage comes apart Constance R. Ahrons, PhD
Surviving the Break-Up: How Children and Parents Cope with Divorce - A classic. Judith S. Wallerstein and Joan B. Kelley (Basic Books, Inc. 1980)
We're Still Friends, What Grown Children Have to Say About Their Parents' Divorce Constance Ahrons, Ph.D. (HarperCollins Publishers, 2004)
The Art and Science of Child Custody Evaluations
Gould, J. W., & Martindale, D.A. (Guilford Publications 2007)
Co-Parenting after Divorce and Drafting Parenting Plans
Parenting Plan Guide - Free and outstanding self-help guide for parents seeking to draft
parenting plans. Drafted by the Statewide Family Law Advisory Committee of the Oregon Judicial Department, this guide is a must to consult for every parent with minor children. This guide is available through the OJD web site. (Note: Bill Howe, a Gevurtz, Menashe partner, serves as Vice Chair of the Committee).
Also see: Mom's House, Dad's House above.
Building a Successful Parenting Plan for Children Porter-Thal, Nancy (2009) available at dgr7@bellsouth.net
Parenting after Divorce: A Guide to Resolving Conflicts and Meeting Your Children's Needs---2nd ed. Stahl, P.M. (Impact Publishers 2008)
Partnership Parenting: How Men and Women Parent Differently --- Why it Helps Your Kids and Can Strengthen Your Marriage Pruett, K., & Pruett, M.K. (DaCapo Press 2009)
Avoid Litigation, Turn Negative Emotions into Positive Actions, and Get On with the Rest of your Life (Harper One 2010)
"Child Adjustment in Joint-Custody Versus Sole-Custody Arrangements: A Meta-Analytic Review" J. Fam. Psychology Bauserman, R. (16(1), 91-102 2002)
Conducting Scientifically Crafted Child Custody Evaluation, 2nd ed. Gould, J.W., p. 166. Professional Resource Press 2006)
The Good Karma Divorce Lowrance, Michele (Hon.) (2010)
Your Divorce Advisors: Lead you Through the Legal and Emotional Landscape Pruett, Marsha Kline, & Diane Mercer (2010)
Parenting in the Face of High Parental Conflict
Custody Chaos, Personal Peace: Sharing Custody with an Ex Who Drives You Crazy Wittman, J. (Berkeley Publishing Co. 2001)
Putting Children First: Proven Strategies for Helping Children Thrive Through Divorce Pedro-Carroll, J.A. (Avery 2010)
Co-parenting Survival Guide: Letting Go of Conflict After a Difficult Divorce Thayer, E.S. & Zimmerman, J. (New Harbinger 2001)
Parenting Coordinators: Parenting Children of Divorce and Custody Issues
"Guidelines for Parenting Coordination," Family Court Review AFCC Task Force on Parenting Coordination (44(1), 162-81, 2005) available at afccnet.org
Learning from Divorce: How to Take Responsibility, Stop the Blame, & Move On Coates, C. & LaCrosse, R. (Jossey-Bass 2005)
Parents are Forever Thomas, S. (Springboard Publications 2004)
Single Parenting & Step-Parenting
Going It Alone Robert Weiss (Basic Books, Inc. 1979)
How To Win As A Step-Family - The Vishers are the national experts on this subject. John Visher and Emily Visher (W.W. Norton 1982)
Therapy with Stepfamilies (Basic Principles into Practice) Emily B. Visher and John S. Visher (Brunner/Mazel, Inc. 1996)
Making It as a Step-Parent Claire Berman (Bantam Books 1980)
Step-Families: Living, Loving, and Learning Elizabeth Ginskin (MacMillan 1982)
Step-motherhood: How to Survive without Feeling Frustrated, Left-Out, or Wicked Cherie Burns (Times Books 1985)
Mediation
Child Custody Mediation Florence Bienenfield (Science and Behavior Books 1983)
Getting Together Roger Fisher and Scott Brown (Penguin Books 1988)
Getting To Yes - Earliest and best book on negotiation. Roger Fisher and William Ury (Penguin Books 1981)
Mediation Jay Folberg and Allison Taylor (Jossey-Bass 1988)
Mediation Jay Folberg and Ann Milne (editors) (Guilford Press 1988)
Websites on Divorce for Children
Where Am I Today? Sticker Calendar A children-friendly calendar with stickers to help with parenting time schedules. Available for purchase at http://www.whereamitoday.net/pamfam.html
Babies & Young Children: Pre-School and Early Elementary (Ages 3-7)
It's Not Your Fault Koko Bear: A Read Together Book for Parents and Young Children DuringDivorce, Vicki Lansky
Does Wednesday Mean Mom's House or Dad's? 2nd ed. Ackerman, M.J. (John Wiley & Sons, Inc. 2008)
"Diagnostic Criteria for Reactive Attachment Disorder," Diagnostic and Statistical Attachment - 2nd ed. Bowlby, J. (Basic Books 1982)
Lifespan Development Boyd, D. & Bee H. (Allyn and Bacon (2006)
Assessing Social-Emotional Development in Children from a Longitudinal Perspective for the National Children's Study, Denham, S.A. (Paper presented at the National Children's Study by Battelle Memorial Institute, Columbus, Ohio 2005)
Developmental Stages of Infants and Children Wisconsin Child Welfare Training System (http://wcwts.wisc.edu/ last visited Jan. 6, 2009)
Books on Divorce for Children: Pre-School and Early Elementary (Ages 3-7)
When They Fight Kathryn White (Winslow Press, 2000)
Through the Eyes of the Children, Healing Stories for Children of Divorce (The Free Press, 1997) Janet R. Johnston, Ph.D., Karen Breunig, M.S., Carla Garrity, Ph.D., Mitchell Baris, Ph.D.
The Dinosaur's Divorce L. and M. Brown (Little, Brown 1988)
Divorce is a Grown Up Problem Janet Sinberg (Avon Books 1978)
Divorce is ... A Kid's Coloring Book K. Magid and W. Schreibman (Pelican Publishing Co. 1980)
I Love You More Than ... Elizabeth Hickey and James Cohen (Family Connections Publishing 1998)
It's Not Your Fault, Koko Bear Vicki Lansky (Book Peddlers 1998)
My Parents Still Love Me Even Though They're Getting Divorced Lois V. Nightingale, Ph.D. (Nightingale Rose Publishers 1997)
Two Homes to Live In: A Child's Eye View of Divorce Barbara Hazen (Human Sciences Press 1978)
Where is Daddy? The Story of A Divorce Beth Goff (Beacon 1969)
Children's Development: Pre-School and Early Elementary (Ages 3-7)
Scientific Basis of Child Custody Evaluations (2nd ed.) Galatzer-Levy, R., Kraus, L., & Galatzer-Levy, B. (Wiley 2009)
"Children's Adjustment Following Divorce: Risk and Resilience Perspectives," Family Relations Kelly, J.B., & Emery, R.E. (52, 352-62 2003)
"Using Child Development Research to Make Appropriate Custody and Access Decisions for Young Children," Family and Conciliation Courts Review Kelly, J.B., & Lamb, M. E. (38 (3), 297-311 2000)
Where Am I Sleeping Tonight? A Story of Divorce Ekster, Carol Gordon (24 pgs. Boulden Publishing 2008) www.carolgordonekster.com
Books on Divorce for Children: Middle and Later Elementary (Ages 8-12)
The Boys and Girls Book About Divorce Richard Gardner (Bantam 1970)
Divorce Can Happen to the Nicest People Peter Mayle (Macmillan 1979)
How Does It Feel When Your Parents Get Divorced Terry Berger (Messner 1976)
It's Not the End of the World Judy Blume (Bradbury 1972)
Mr. Rogers Talks with Families About Divorce Fred Rogers and Claire O'Brien (Berkley Press 1988)
Now I Have a Step-Parent and It's Kind of Confusing Janet Sinberg Stenson (Avon Books 1979)
Adolescent Decision-Making: Adolescents (Ages 13+)
Parent's Guide to Building Resilience in Children and Teens American Academy of Pediatrics (2006)
Mom's House, Dad's House for Kids: Feeling at Home in One Home or Two - Fantastic resource! Isolina Ricci (Simon & Schuster, 2006)
Teen Brain, Teen Mind: What Parents Need to Know to Survive the Adolescent Years Clavier, Ron (2009)
The Truth about Children and Divorce Emery, Robert (2006)
Surviving Divorce: Teens Talk About What Hurts and What Helps Trueit, Judi Strain (2007)
Books on Divorce for Children: Adolescents (Ages 13+)
7 Things Your Teenager Won't Tell you and How to Talk about them Anyway - Outstanding!Helpful to every parent of a teenager. Jenifer Marshall Lippincott & Robin M. Deutsch, PhD
Why Did You Have to Get a Divorce and When Can I get a Hamster? A Guide to Parenting through Divorce (Farrar, Straus and Giroux, 1998) Anthony E. Wolf, Ph.D.
Breaking Up Norma Klein (Avon 1980)
Coping When your Family Falls Apart Dianna Booher (Messner 1979)
The Day the Loving Stopped Julie List (Seaview Books 1980)
How It Feels When Parents Divorce Jill Krementz (Alfred A. Knopf 1984)
How to Get It Together When Your Parents Divorce Arlene Richards and Irene Willis (Bantam Books 1976)
My Parents Are Divorced, Too Bonnie Robson (Dorset Publishing 1979)
Addiction, Chemical Dependency and Domestic Violence
Intervention, A Step-by-Step Guide for Families and Friends of chemically dependent persons:How to help someone who doesn't want help Vernon E. Johnson, D.D.
Remarriage & Premarital Agreements
The Future of Love Daphne Rose Kingma (Doubleday Press 1998)
Prenups for Lovers, a Romantic Guide to Prenuptial Agreements Arlene G. Dubin (Random House 2001)
Life After Divorce, Create a New Beginning Sharon Wegscheider-Cruse (Health Communications, Inc. 1994)
Remarriage: A Family Affair Lillian Messinger (Plenum Press 1984)
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work - Outstanding book based on the best research available. John M. Gottman, Ph.D. (Three Rivers Press, 1999)
